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From a contentious woman to a woman with a quiet & gentle spirit

Updated: Jan 21

When reading Titus 2 or Proverbs 31 we have this image of that perfect biblical woman. A woman who was born in all her wonderful biblical traits. Did you ever notice how Sarah the wife of Abraham wasn't behaving like this perfect, kind woman with the gentle and quiet spirit in the beginning of her walk?

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:3-4


Let’s talk about a woman who had this kind of beauty that only grew more lovely with age. In fact, Peter puts her forth as a role model. He uses her as an example of a woman who cultivated in her beauty.

For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. 1 Peter 3:5-6

From Sarai to Sarah

Peter singled out Sarah as an example and it’s amazing that Peter chose Sarah to be the poster girl for a gentle and quiet spirit. You know why? Because it wasn’t always that way for Sarah. Sarah didn’t always have a gentle and quiet spirit. You know what Sarah’s name meant before God changed her name? Her name was Sarai meaning contention. Contention means: strive, dispute, controversy, quarrel, especially rivalry, wrangling, constantly affecting irritation, loves an argument.

You need to know how people name their children in the time of Genesis. They named their children late in life. They waited to see their character. What does that say for Sarah? Hardly the picture of a gentle and quiet spirit. See if you study the life of Sarah, this helps explain her behavior in some of the earlier accounts of her life. She displays jealousy, she was manipulative, she was downright mean in the way she treated Hagar and yet God is in the name changing business. He changed Sarai meaning contentious to Sarah meaning Princess. Only God can change us from contentious to princess. Only God ultimately can change character.

There is hope for us

At some point in scripture is not clear on where or when it happened. We see in 1. Peter 3 a Sarah who has a humble and quiet spirit, a Sarah whose spirit and the side of God is of great price. A Sarah who hoped in God and was submissive to her husband. Scripture records that Abraham buried her with great mourning and love. Now I draw great encouragement from the life of Sarah because there’s hope for me. God can do the same in my life as well. He can change us from being contentious to be women with a gentle and quiet spirit if we but surrender to His work of grace in our lives.

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