• Ranya

9 Tipps to improve your biblical femininity as a single woman

1. Be sure about who you want to be

Pursue what your goals actually are. If your only dream is to be a biblical mother and wife do not feel small. This is a wonderful calling. We need more stable families in society. Many women feel guilt and shame over desiring a life at home, as if it were selfish when in reality a mother and a wife pours her love, care and energy into her children and husband.

2. Plan for your family

Plan your life strategically with a family in mind.

Make decisions that draw you closer to your goal just as you would if you were building a career. Focus to prepare yourself for marriage and be ready to court a man if you believe you're ready to become a wife! So if you seek to become a wife and mother it doesn't really make sense to go on a world tour or study something that takes you 10 years.

Be aware that how you live your life now affects your future. The choices you make right now will affect your future.

If you do not want to go to college it's okay! We can pursue to become wives and mothers and be provided for by our husbands. But always keep in mind that learning a skill or a job to provide yourself with when you're not married, is important. It's always wise and great to be able to provide for yourself while you're not with your family anymore or married to a providing husband. You never know what happens and you need a plan b.

3. Date compatibly

Be wise. You cannot be a homemaker and a wife without a husband. You’re going to need a special kind of biblical man. If you want to be a wife and homemake, you need a marriage. And we do not want to be a burden on our husband, so choose a husband who would be delighted to have a homemaker and biblical feminine woman as a wife. Don't chose a man who rather wants a career woman, if that's not what you want to be.

4. Prepare for negative reactions

Prepare for people shaking their heads over your feminine and biblical desires. Your own parents, siblings and friends might not be supportive with your decision to follow God’s way and wanting to become what God created you for. Be confident in what you believe is right based on scripture! Don't let the world's pressure destroy you and force you into doing something that goes against your God given nature!

5. Work on your flaws

It’s important to learn how to control your emotions and the words you say in difficult situations. Through the holy spirit we can work on becoming a nicer person to be around. Don’t be frustrated by your flaws but rather use the bible as your guideline and Christ as your strength to work on these flaws. As daughters of God we should strive to become women that are pleasing to God! Through the Most High we are able to put aside character traits that are negative and a burden to others. As biblical and feminine women, we want to be nurturing and lovely to others.

6. Be mindful with your sex and dating life

Sex is only for three reasons: reproduction, pleasure, and pair bonding. Never believe that you can pursue sex only for pleasure because you are also walking in the area of reproduction and pair bonding even if you avoid reproduction through birth control you still end up pair bonding with the person you have sex with. Be aware of what God created you for as woman! If a man does not want to be with you because you are a virgin and you want to stay a virgin until you’re married, he does not respect your values and your beliefs. A real man of God would never destroy your purity and virtue. You want a partnership where your partner respects your purity and virtue. Do not settle for less!

7. Learn to cook and clean

This might be old-fashioned for some women but it’s very important to learn these things if you want to take care of people around you! Get used to taking care of your space. Whether you have roommates, you’re in a dorm-room, or you live with your parents, make sure you take care of your space. We should represent women that have their life together and in order. It's different when you have children. But as long as you are single, get used to being a clean person. Cleaning and cooking can be so much fun and actually relaxing. I love to listen to sermons, podcasts or the audio bible while cleaning and cooking. I can think and reflect best when I'm doing these things. For some women it might be a burden but as women who wan't to be godly, we should see such task as a blessing. We can learn to be selfless, and serve by keeping a clean space for others and having cooked food on the table.

8. Be diligent for God

Whatever you have to do, let it be the household, cooking, cleaning or doing your college and university or schoolwork that is obligatory. Don’t do it with bitterness and frustration. Whatever you do, do it for the bigger reason behind it. As followers of Christ ,we are supposed to be a good example in society. People are supposed to look up on us and admire our diligence and positivity. Try to have a mindset that does not worry so much about the future and big tasks that are before you. Don’t burden yourself with a long to-do list but rather create small goals for the day, that you can work with in your own speed.

'Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come.' Proverbs 31:25

9. Don’t focus on the world’s standards of femininity

As women who strive to become godly, we want to focus on walking in obedience to God’s word. His ways are perfect and healthy for us. Through his commandments we shall live and through His son we are saved. Many women are deceived by the enemy who tries to manipulate women into thinking striving for fame, insane beauty standards, being sexually active before marriage and having a selfish mindset is cool. Real femininity is the femininity that God created. We are feminine in our nature because God made us different from men. We can use the beautiful traits of bearing children, nurturing, being emotional and many other traits to bless others and glorify God.

Biblical femininity is not about being selfish and better than everyone else. Biblical femininity is about the inner self:

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3 3-4
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